I do it, you do it, we all do it. Most days. In fact, we can't seem to help ourselves. Is it part of the human condition? Perhaps. But not one of the more attractive and productive parts.
I found myself doing it this morning as I drove to work. Out of the corner of my eye I spied a girl wearing a pair of skinny jeans and she wearing them well, complete with enviable thigh gap. You know what I mean by thigh gap, right? Pretty self explanatory really. It's a space between your inner thighs when you're standing with your feet together and it is coveted by most women. It looks like this:
I don't have one, she did and for a few seconds I found myself dwelling upon my self-imagined imperfection... And then I gave myself a good, hard metaphorical slap and I was brought back to reality. The dimensions of my thigh gap or lack thereof is of such little import in the grand scheme of things. It has no bearing on my life or the way I lead it so why, oh why did I give those precious seconds of my life over to feelings of inadequacy? While I may be powerless to stop these pervasive thoughts from entering my mind in the first place what I can do is challenge them and drive them back to the gloomy, self-deprecating pitof despair from whence they came. They serve no purpose other than to bring me down and I, the Ginger Warrior, will not be brought down! Theodore Roosevelt knew it. He once declared:
COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY
Surely no truer word has been spoken! The very moment we let our guard down and think that somebody has it better than we do is the moment that joy and happiness abandon us. It also means that we are in real danger of overlooking and undervaluing the countless blessings and bounties that we enjoy in our own lives.
The truth of the matter is that there will ALWAYS be someone thinner, richer, better looking, more intelligent, more creative e.t.c, e.t.c, e.t.c. But do you know what there will NEVER EVER be? Someone like YOU! You and I are unique, dear Warriors, there is no-one else quite like us in the whole, entire world! That makes us special, a rare commodity to be cherished. So cherish yourself, be kind to yourself and if you really do feel the need to change then simply become a better version of YOU. "Be yourself", said Oscar Wilde, "everybody else is already taken."
I'm no Theodore Roosevelt or Oscar Wilde but my advice, for what is counts, is to judge your words, actions, thoughts, looks and achievements by your own standards and leave comparison firmly out of the equation. Chances are you'll be a much happier human being.
And as for me and my chaffing inner thighs? We keep each other warm in the winter.
Ginger Warrior, over and out.
P.S. Do you find yourself comparing your life to that of those around you? How does it make you feel? Any suggestions as to how we could better handle comparisons?